Malcolm and Angela were married on Daydream Island today. It was a truly beautiful ceremony. The celebrant's words were very touching and honest but, what really got all the guests sniffling, were the loving vows shared between the bride and the groom. It was a wonderful day. Congrats to Malcolm and Angela from all of us!
There's a love bug at Daydream Island and it seems it is contagious!
Firstly, several Daydreamers and friends were invited to Corporal Clock and Cattitude721's wedding at the lovely 'Chapel of Dreams' on Cerveza Island. There was a bit of a stalled start - the bride's pose ball was on strike and the Minister was in some kind of pixelated coma. But Angela Saphed stepped in to save the day, taking on the role of celebrant. It turned out to be a truly wonderful occassion! The picture above shows the newly weds having a longgggg smooch after they exchanged loving vows and were pronounced man and wife. YAYYY!
After the wedding several of the guests returned to Daydream Island to watch the new Mr and Mrs Clock take their first dance. Wellll ... they tried to dance but lag prevented that, so the happy couple zipped off to the privacy their own home. The guests that remained chatted and waltzed. Then - out of the blue - Derek Alexander asked Jessica Diavolo to marry him. Her answer was YES, so now we have even more to celebrate!
Aint love grand, people?
We all know that in Second Life.com we are nothing but pixels. So, if that’s the case, nothing about us is ‘real’, right? Sadly, that’s far from true. While our avatars are just bunches of cleverly animated pixels on a screen, our emotions are very real. Behind every avi is an individual - a human - who laughs, smiles, cries and feels pain. The emotions in SL are not felt by our avatars on monitors; they reside firmly within us in ‘real’ life.
I’m not saying this is necessarily a bad thing. Our personalities and feelings are what make SL the fun that it is. If we suddenly removed our emotions from the equation it would be a very boring place indeed. It takes human intervention to play jokes on each other, make role play come to life, build friendships or create amazing virtual content to wear, look at, explore and interact with. But it is true that our emotions in a virtual world can lead to sadness, even tragedy.
Let me share a story with you about a dear SL friend of mine; I’ll call her Fiona. She was a popular, friendly and fun person. In SL she enjoyed socialising, dancing and fashion. OMG how she loved her clothes and hair styles! In real life Fiona was single, had been divorced for about 4 years and worked in a demanding profession.
Although Fiona was a little lonely in real life she was not looking for ‘love’ online. She just enjoyed meeting people from many different countries and made a lot of friends. After about a year in-world she met Tony who happened to live only 200 miles from her. Tony and Fiona formed a close friendship and, over time, shared more about their real lives. It turned out that Tony, who was also professionally employed, was single and had never found ‘Mrs Right’ because he’d dedicated so much time to his career.
The more time Fiona and Tony spent together the closer they became. She was so happy. He was funny, caring, generous and supportive. She felt herself falling for him and they gradually shifted from being friends to something more amorous. Then, after several months, Tony asked to meet with Fiona in real life. She was ecstatic!
Only 3 weeks later, things had taken a turn for the worse. Fiona’s catch up with Tony hadn’t eventuated; in fact he was rarely in Second Life these days. He was also avoiding her calls and sending very brief responses to her texts. When he was around Tony was uncharacteristically distant, less attentive. Fiona queried him several times about what was wrong but he claimed he was just busy at work. She was baffled, knowing there was more to it but unable to get him to open up.
Then Tony cut off all contact and Fiona became genuinely distressed. What had happened? Had he found someone else? Was he ill or worse? What had she done wrong? After a few days she sent a text asking if he was ok. His reply was, “Leave me the f*** alone!” Wisely, after wiping the many tears from her eyes, Fiona did just that.
A week or two later who should suddenly appear in SL but Tony. He talked briefly and the truth came out. It seems ‘single’ Tony really had a wife and 3 children. His marriage was not a happy one and he’d been planning to leave his wife but, before he had the chance to initiate a separation, she had left him for another man. Not only that, she'd departed without the children! He admitted he had not been a good husband and his wife had never met the ‘perfect man’ he portrayed in SL. So Tony was now busy trying to pull together the tatters of his real life – a life that Fiona had no place in.
Why did Tony come clean at last? Who knows? Maybe he wanted to get things off his chest or perhaps he was so self absorbed that he actually expected sympathy?
To Fiona’s credit, with all the pride she could muster, she told Tony his wife was to be congratulated for freeing herself of him at last and she added that she was happy to be rid of him too, now that she knew the truth. She wished Tony luck in raising his 3 children alone.
Tony’s response? Nothing - he logged off and has never been seen in Second Life since – not in that avatar name, anyway. And what of Fiona? She stayed in SL for a while but never really recovered from the experience. I've not seen her in-world for several months...sigh.
What’s the moral of this tale? Please take care of your heart in Second Life. Even those you feel you trust can mess with it. There are certainly cases of people having found true love in SL but unfortunately they are the exceptions, rather than the rule. Your emotions in a virtual world can lead you astray, especially when things are not what you think they are!
Natalia Zelmanov (bit of a mouth-full that name!) has a fantastic Blog about SL called Mermaid Diaries. When I was a newbie I referred to it often but it's worth reading even if you have been in SL a while.
It's full of interesting and helpful information on many SL topics like:
- Getting Started in SL Guide
- Building tutorials and techniques
- Places to see, and
- LOTS more!
There once was this lady and at one point in her Second Life she met an incredible guy. They spent some time together and then one day they realised that they both kinda liked each other.
They continued to spend a lot of time together, getting to know each other and soon they realised that they fit so well together that to deny themselves of the other would be foolhardy.
And they kissed, but this kiss was like no other kiss ever known to man, this kiss caused time eternal itself to stop for the period that their lips touched. Though there was something more than just that kiss in there.
Each of them now realised that they did truly like the other, but neither of them wanted to admit that they loved the other.
They struggled to keep from sharing this with the other, but as you probably already know, love, true love, always wins.
They then decided to follow the same path and see where it will lead them...
But I am sorry, this story doesn't have an end, as they still walk that path together. Winks ;-)